Sabin and Chloё are enjoying their new brother and figuring out where they fit in this week with mama in bed and daddy at the helm of their day. Both children
love to hold the baby and ask regularly. Each time he cries, I have an audience. Sabin wants to understand what is going on. Chloё scolds and fusses over me because I'm "making our baby cry".
Sabin has chosen the, "I'm big" path. He keeps looking for ways to establish himself as the big kid. At the same time, he is extra wild and crazy--teasing and harassing, jumping and bouncing off the walls.
My Compssion strategy: to remember that because the routine is missing, he is feeling very out of control. to remember that he is only 4 and cannot understand it all. to hug and cuddle him not just each time he asks (which isn't much) but more than he is asking for. to challenge him with jobs in which he can feel successful and truly helpful.
Chloё is "the baby". She knows she fits their. She's fussier and can't do things that a week ago she was proud to do, ie choosing her own clothes and dressing herself. She tantrums easily and runs to mama with each little bump. I am thankful that her daddy is so ptient with her.
My Compassion Strategy: Nurse her! to remember that she doesn't understand that mama is only down for a few days. to remember that she is only a baby and allow her that--she is only a week older than she was before Cohen was born. to hold her, hold her, hold her. To give her jobs where she can feel successful and helpful.
Peacefully BuZzInG
Misty